The pheras: the marriage itself

Everything before this is celebration; this is the marriage. Under a decorated canopy (the mandap), before a small sacred fire, the couple make their vows — the fire itself standing as witness.

The sequence, broadly

• Ganesh puja — an opening prayer for an obstacle-free start.
• Kanyadaan — the bride's parents formally give her hand. Emotionally the heaviest moment for her family, and increasingly rethought or reworded by modern couples who dislike the idea of "giving away" a daughter.
• Hasta melap / gathbandhan — hands joined; the couple's garments knotted together, a knot that stays tied through what follows.
• The pheras — four or seven circles of the fire, depending on tradition. Each carries a vow: duty, prosperity, family, harmony, and so on. In many customs the groom leads the first rounds and the bride leads the last.
• Saptapadi — seven steps, each with a specific promise. In much of the south this, rather than the circling, is the binding act.
• Mangalsutra and sindoor — the groom ties a black-and-gold necklace and applies vermilion to the parting of her hair: the visible marks of marriage.
• Blessings — elders bless the couple, and the rice-and-flower throwing begins.

What guests should know

• Shoes off near the mandap.
• Don't step in front of the fire or between the couple and the priest when photographing.
• The timing may be strange — 5am, or midnight — because it's set to an auspicious window calculated in advance. That one really is fixed.

Customs differ by region, community and family — where sources or practice genuinely disagree, this page says so rather than presenting one version as the rule.

See also: mandap and its symbols · muhurat and astrology: why the wedding is at 5am · vidaai: the farewell

Last updated: 2026-08-13